Sometimes life gets confusing and you wonder. Am I a lesbian? Do I like girls? So does that make me a lesbian? Well, life is not that simple. Some woman think that you are born a lesbian, while others believe that you are made a lesbian.

More girls I know think they are lesbians because they got hurt by a guy and they don't want to deal with guys anymore so they rather go with girls. I've heard some women have relationships with women because the man they lived with treated her badly or beat her up. So they decided they want to be a lesbian.

If you are having doubts that you are a lesbian, then you are definitely not a lesbian. The most common mistake girls make thinking they are lesbians its because someone else told them to. Don't fall trap into thinking that you are a lesbian just because someone else told you. I remember when I was 18 years old I used to like this girl, she looked pretty. But deep inside I liked her because she really did look pretty, but that didn't mean I wanted to have sex with her. It's those kinds of mistakes a lot of girls make because they have sexual urges and they confuse them with liking a girl. There is not doubt that you will find girls who are attractive, but don't let other brain wash you into sexual thoughts, because if you fall into their thoughts, then you have a weak mind.

I had a friend who thought she was lesbian because the guy she liked didn't like her, so she was feeling very depressed and met this lesbian friend and she helped her get trough it and she got very close to her. But the lesbian friend misunderstood her and thought my friend wanted sex, but it wasn't like that, she was just grateful for getting her through a rough time. but at the same time my friend felt bad because the lesbian girl wanted sex from her so she gave in. what can you do to stop thinking lesbian thoughts? I remember I used to have sexual thoughts about girls, but now that I think about it, it was more like curiosity more than anything else, it wasn't because I was a lesbian, I was just curious because I saw it in magazines and in porno videos so I thought how it would feel. So I told a friend about my feelings, I didn't know she was a lesbian so she told me to try it and that I would like it. I said no because I didn't feel right having sex with another woman. But she pushed me and pushed me into one day I was drunk she took advantage and convinced me to sleep with her. I don't really remember the whole experience but she said I was the best laid she got... and that made me feel special... I know weird, but I felt wanted. So I would give in to her because she made me feel good, I really didn't enjoy it much. But I did it just to please her, until a few weeks later; I found her sleeping with another woman. I was very disappointed. I was getting feelings for her. At first I thought it was love, but then I thought, how I can be love with another woman... ewwwww. now that I think about it, I felt hurt because I felt betrayed, it doesn't matter if you are cheated by a friend, boyfriend, girlfriend, mother, father, sister, brother, whoever, if they betray you, you feel hurt so don't think that because you have feeling for another woman, that makes you a lesbian, because that's wrong. Then after that she regretted. A year later, she found out she had an STD and it was because of that lesbian girl.

if you like lesbian girls because you think they are more faithful than guys, you are wrong, I lived through a period in my life where I only dated lesbian because I thot they were more faithful than guys, boy, was I wrong. They are the same. For lesbian girls, it's all about lust, pure sexual lust. Anyway, I had 10 relationships and all ten girls cheated on me. I was very disappointed because I thought I would find lesbian girls more faithful than guys.

So how do you know if you are born a lesbian? Well, that's just a myth. There is no such thing. You see lesbians want you to think that way so you can join their community; after all, we all want to belong. And we feel good knowing there are others like us, so most likely if you ask a lesbian... am I a lesbian... they answer will always be... yes. Why, because they want you in their community. If you don't believe me... try it... you'll see. There is not one that will not try to convince you that you are not. I felt into that trap myself. I wish I can go back in time and change it. I was very innocent and let others brainwashed me into thinking I was a lesbian. But it was just my sexual lust that took the best of me.

So what i am trying to say here, this question that you have in your head about you being a lesbian, is just psychological, it's all in your mind. Instead of focusing on this, focus on having your own family. Think about how great it would be to have a good husband and your own children. How happy it will make you to know you are a mother and your kids love you so much. Yeah it's not all going to be pretty and pink, but that's why you have your family. The support of your husband, knowing that you and he can face any challenge together. Think about your school and becoming a successful career woman. Someone everyone looks up to, instead of everyone being ashamed of. Don't focus too much on the sexual part. While sex is great, you'll get a chance to have as much sex as you want with your husband later in your life.

Just trust yourself, and be strong inside your mind and in your heart knowing that you can accomplish all your goals as a successful woman. Don't let anyone tell you or put in your head that you are a lesbian, being a lesbian is not in your mind. if you are thinking about being a lesbian just because of the sex part, then you will suffer later in your life, and the pain will not be worth it no matter how much pleasure you feel being with another woman, sooner or later you will have to pay the harsh consequences, and if you are not strong, you will fall into a deep hole which you will not be able to get out. It's scary. I know how it feels to be there, so that's why I am writing this blog here because I don't want any girl out there to go through what I did simply because I was brainwashed into thinking I was a lesbian.

So take my advice, don't focus your life on sex right now. Instead, use that energy into making you a better and stronger woman. how do you become stronger, by staying in school and learning as much as you can because the more you stimulate your mind, the better you are prepared to face any challenges you have in your life, and that will come in handy when you and you husband face them together. you know, men don't always have the answers, that's why always guys, when its time to settle down, they looks for smart and strong women, someone who will be with them when they have to face a problem, after all, two minds work better than one. Believe me, your knowledge and skill you learn in your education will help protect you and your family from all those who want to harm you.

So if you are looking for answer to your question, then the answer is NO... a big NO! you are not a lesbian my dear. If you found this page, I can assure you that you did not find it by accident. You found it because of faith. please tell me about you and what makes you think you are a lesbian and i will reply with my answer. Many blessings to you. Remember

No You Are Not A Lesbian