In Love With Married Man? How To Stop Loving A Married Man

I know how difficult it is to love a married man. After 30 years my first boyfriend and I found our way back together on Facebook. Started off with coffee and then one kiss that brought back all the old feelings. We are both married with adult children and they are also raising a grandchild whom he loves dearly. We live about 2 hours from each other so don't get to visit as often as we would like. I love him so much and want to be with him but we have discussed it and he is a real family man and told me he will not leave his family. I treasure every moment we have together but want more and my heart aches & tears flow when we can't be together. Holidays and weekends are painful. There just isn't any easy answer to this. We do both love each other, there is no doubt there but I feel so hurt and frustrated that it can't go anywhere I just want to cry most of the time. I have a good husband and 2 adult children who never would forgive me if they found out so that is always on my mind too. The pain of the love in my heart is just so overwhelming and I feel for you because I know what you feel. hope you work through. I don't know if I ever will. Love is strong and good but can hurt so much


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In love with married man ? what can I say ? People says love is bind, love is pure, love is everlasting … whatever First of all what is love? Can love die ? dry ? lost ? Then what is marriage ? two heart become one, two body become one, that why people call married couple or spouses as your better half? If that so how can a married man fall in love with other woman? On wedding, people take wedding vows : _____, take you ______, to be my wedded __________. To have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, 'till death do us part. And hereto I pledge you my faithfulness. vows before God witness the couple … so can they break the vows? commit adultery ? When a couple married they will have so many thought of how to live the future … full with hope and trust and love … can this be destroy ? this is something to think about friends …. You may say “So what”! (breaking a marriage ) ok the couple got divorce but what will happen to their children? They are innocent, they need father and mother’s love to love them, protect them and provide their needs. Some of you don’t bother “who cares not my business”! but when you are married and have your own children … don’t you feel guilty ? when you look at your children, don’t you reminded of the other’s child lost…. Lastly what will you do if this happen to you? You all may think, I am talking to much … I seen to much already … am litigation clerk and I work as divorce clerk for 7 years .. done so many divorce cases … pain, suffer , lost and children thrown over to others …. SAD … ARE YOU TRULY HAPPY WITH ALL THIS ? THINK ABOUT IT? IN THE END THIS IS YOUR LIFE … YOUR CHOICE… IF U HAPPY BUT ANOTHER WOMAN SUFFERING IN PAIN … IS THIS TRULY HAPPINESS AND LOVE YOU ARE SEEKING FOR ?

It's very hard to stop loving a person that you truly care and love. I have experienced like this situation and even now, i still in love this man even i already knew that our relationship is not good for everyone because he have already his family. He have 3 children. Same with me, i have 2 children but i am not married. I am still single but already parent. We met in a seminar. We were both representative with our different company. After that seminar, we became friend and have a dates 2 to 3 times a week, until it's happened that we fall each other, and got a baby boy. Presently, we have no regular communication because of his work and giving time to his family. I have no idea what really his ultimate plan about the situation. I always consider his absences with us. And even the financial support for our baby, i did not force him to give consistently and updatedly. My very big problem now is, how to stop this feeling for him. I know this relationship has no future because he already married. He also loved his family. And i don't want to break it. I don't want that his family will get hurts if they discover everything about us. Because I know that this is very unfair for them. The man has no promises made to me. And I admit that it also unfair to me that he bring and leave us with the baby into airy. He have no words for us. But i am sure that he also care for us. I don't know his back. I miss him. I really love him. In my heart, and GOD knows that i really want him to back for us. But in my mind, it is not the right thing to happen. This is unfair to his family. And so, it's so hard to stop loving a man that you really care and love.

This guy found me online, we are both married to other people. I have fallen head over heels for him. he says he loves me but he gave his heart to his wife. when i see him i am the happiest person in the world. when we go our separate ways i am a whimpering big baby. trying to not love him is impossibly. I have told him how i felt but i don't know what he really thinks deep down in side. seems we have known each other a life time but its be shorter than that.

im so sorry about how ur feeling all that pain, its so much common than we know that we never forget our past illusions becoz they were innoent and not reality... love exists but when its one sided commitment it can be torture. i advice anybody to leave their past in the past as you will only be looking for trouble if you move to it, As for those who are having secret encounters, as good as it makes you feel,as equally bad they will make you also feel. therefore if you are willing to take the gud n bad, continue.. but if you need calm and peace then stop all contact, and atleast sto for awhile all contacts and see how it feels.... and if you can continue that way or not... love yrself that much especially if you want him to see your worth, im going through the same thing, and i have now stoped all contacts... if hes mine, hel comeback to me in the end...if he doesnt comeback... he was never mine from the start...good luck to all